Five Toxic Habits To Let Go For A Healthy Relationship.
Relationships, as we know are like delicate flowers that require care, attention, and nurturing to bloom beautifully. We've all been there, haven't we? The thrill of falling in love, the feeling of being with someone who understands us like no one else can, it's all magical and beautiful.
But sometimes, amidst the magical moments, we unintendedly take on habits that can transform our love story into something much darker and more challenging than we ever imagined.
This isn't about finger-pointing or casting blame; it's about recognising that we're all human, and we all make mistakes. It's about understanding that toxic habits can creep into even the most loving relationships, but it's never too late to change and grow together.
Someone once said the first step towards healing is recognising you're sick. So, do not close your eyes to some of these toxic habits that can give a dark turn to your fairy tale love story. These are some of the toxic traits many relationships face today and which need to be stopped inorder to harbor a healthy relationship.
Over sharing with friends.
There is a limit to how much information we can give out. Friends are our confidants, the ones who are always there to listen and support us. But, there's a fine line between sharing and oversharing when it comes to your relationship. Venting about your partner's flaws or airing your relationship's dirty laundry with friends can lead to hatred, disrespect and alot of drama. Your friends do not fully understand the dynamics of your relationship, and as a result, their well-intentioned advice could do more harm than good. Seek support from friends, but maintain healthy boundaries and ensure that your relationship's private matters remain just that private.
Snooping Through His/Her Phone.
This is a trending habit in many relationships and has been a major cause of mistrust, anger, frustartion an hate. If you are this type of partner it is safe for you to know that this is a toxic habit that you need to stop.We all have our moments of curiosity, but invading your partner's privacy by snooping through their phone is a toxic habit that can erode trust. As you know,trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and when it's broken, it can be hard to rebuild. If you suspect something fishy, the best way to go about it is to have an open and honest conversation with your partner rather than resorting to snooping.
We all know that communication is the bedrock of every relationship; now tell me when you put up an attitude and go all silent, how do expect your partner to know what the problem is? Unless you speak up he/she will not definitely smell the problem and know exactly what it is. Resorting to giving the cold shoulder, making snide remarks, being aggressive and giving silent treatment is not the way to go. In fact, it's actually a recipe for disaster. Relationships need active communication to evolve and thrive. Instead of bottling up your feelings, take a deep breath, and talk things out with your partner.
Not Communicating your feelings.
Let's face facts. We all are humans and cannot possibly read our partners minds. If you need something from your partner just tell them. How on earth will you comfortably sit in your corner, expecting your partner to do something for you, which they are not even aware of and then when they fail to do it, boom! anger sets in. If you have specific needs, desires, or concerns, talk about them clearly and openly. Keeping your emotions bottled up not only ends in frustration but can also cause misunderstandings and unnecessary conflict. Your partner cannot meet your needs if they don't know what they are. So, instead of expecting them to magically understand your feelings, communicate openly. You might be surprised at how much smoother your relationship sails when you do.
Comparing your relationship with others.
As funny as this may sound, trust me this is the worst toxic trait. Social media has not made things any easy for some couples, because when their partners see all the shopping, pampering and luxury portrayed by the seemingly perfect TikTok and Instagram couples, they begin to demand such from their partners. They do not even look at the financial situation of their partners or their likes and dislikes to even strike a meeting point. This habit is toxic because you begin to get unrealistic expectations. Remember, what you see on social media is not real life. Every relationship has its ups and downs. Instead of making comparisons, focus on nurturing your relationship. Embrace the imperfections and work on the challenges together. Remember, the grass is not always green on the other side.
If you fall within this category, then i join your partner to say "Change". Please examine yourself, take advice and change. Do this and see how the spark will come back and you both will be all lovey-dovey again, but do not forget to come back and thank me!!LOL.