Dates, especially first dates, can give anyone the jitters, it's natural that you might be anxious and may make a few ‘’faux pas,” especially during Talking back and forth, trying to create some sort of conversational rhythm with a total stranger... awkward. It's like an interview, filled with nervous laughter, weird lulls in conversation and at times, grasping at straws for topics to extend the date.

Making a good first impression is crucial for any potential chemistry. But sometimes, anxiety forces you to bring up things you never should on a first date.

So what are some of those topics you should avoid?

  1. Talking about your ex. This is one of the challenging topics people fail to avoid, it seems to them as though this particular topic is most important. Any topic about your ex will show your date that you haven't gotten over him, and sometimes you might be the one who will push your dates to cover up all his bad behavior for fear of leaving you. That is; Ur ex issues stories might just scare ur date he might be considerate about the things ur ex did and might hide said trait because he doesn’t want to lose you and rather will not be doing the real him. “ex talks” comes off as clinging to old baggage and probably not interested in getting to know him at least not yet.
  2. Avoid heated or heavy topics. It's a date which means fun and getting to know one better. So bringing up topics like religion, politics and touchy issues like abortion,pro-choice, pro-life,and Soo on This is too heavy a topic for a first date, and could get very intense.You don't want to lose a second date due to difference in political opinion.Just because you feel strongly about certain things, it doesn't mean your date needs to hear about. it's quite very early to go deep into details. You will find out the man's views on such matters if you should decide to get to know him better. But at this early stage you might end up blowing it up.
  3. Avoid financial probing questions. To be frank, it's okay to ask a man about his job or career, ( Do you like your job? What kind of work do you do?) These are some few questions that show a lot of concern and interest, which is excellent I must say, but then getting as far as asking "how much you make out of your job is very rude and introding. Some people can be as childish as asking the kind of car you drive or how big your house is. It's equally offensive and awful. Even if you're Soo excited about the date, you should be mindful of your questions. Don't cross the line.
  4. Sex talks. Well this will obviously depend on how you present yourself and how you think the relationship may be because talking about it, a lot may change the way your date sees sexual topics should be avoided as earlier mentioned, unless you're looking for a one-night stand. It's inappropriate to tell a man how many men you've slept with.talking about sex or telling sexual jokes may give a man the wrong idea! Unless sex is your only goal, then roll it over!
  5. Your Accomplishments. Sometimes the other person will figure it out as pride. Saying one or two things about your accomplishments isn't bad though, but even if you own or you're entitled to more, it Should be known with Time by the other person not you revealing everything on a single day..
  6. Avoid asking insecure questions. Questions such as "How do you like me so far?" Where do you see this relationship heading?" " Am I your type?" .All these questions shows that you're not confident and sure about yourself.And after one date, how would he really know?. Just don't be desperate and quick to ask anything that comes to your mind. read, watch observe.
  7. Secrets. It's probably inappropriate and too early to reveal your deepest secrets to someone you're still trying to know about.Don't share your deepest, darkest secrets with someone you've just met: He or she simply hasn't earned your trust yet.Moreover, this is extremely inappropriate, and will probably not be received well.
  8. Family background. Meaning getting too detailed about your family private issues, problems and secrets. It  should not be necessary. Bad characteristics of ur family members ,He or she may get frightened and that could be the last you hear of them. Family issues might scare him or make him know a lot about you while u don’t even know if he’s gonna be that open to you and if he’s willing. There are actually so many topics you shouldn't discuss about your family on a first date.
  9. Gossiping. In what sense? Talking about other individuals, not necessarily in a negative way but it's a date: you should raise topics that would enable you two to know yourselves better. Be a good journalist, be inquisitive rightly....
  10. Avoid Anything that is a blatant lie. Avoid effusive bragging, especially things that aren't even true. Don't say you're a lawyer when you're actually a paralegal. The truth comes out in the end. Plus, a date who carries on about herself and nauseam without coming up for air, is just plain boring.

                                                                                                        Pélagie Yankey

You’ve successfully subscribed to FabAfriq Magazine
Welcome back! You’ve successfully signed in.
Great! You’ve successfully signed up.
Your link has expired
Success! Check your email for magic link to sign-in.