Five indications you may have unknowingly raised a spoilt child
Life is often viewed as a vending machine by spoilt children.
The challenges of parenthood are enough. However, being a parent in the modern world, when kids have access to phones, Netflix, TikTok and a more lenient lifestyle than most adults experienced as children, makes it even more difficult to know when to draw the line.
A lot of parents mistake love for excess. They keep giving in the hopes of making their kids content and at ease, only to discover one day that they have produced a miniature monster that lashes out at the slightest "no."
Here is how to recognise the differences and recognise the warning signals before they become more serious.
- They will constantly demand more, no matter what you give them
You got them a toy. They desire two. You served them beef pie? They want pizza. Have you recently bought them a new outfit? They are now looking for an iPad.
Spoilt kids perceive life as a vending machine. Insert a request and get a prize. They haven't learnt to be content or grateful, which can be a severe issue in maturity.
2. They are nasty to adults, even you
Respect is an important characteristic in Nigerian culture. And, while we are raising more expressive children (which is a positive thing), there is a difference between boldness and rudeness.
Spoilt youngsters frequently lack limits since they have not been taught where the boundary is.
3. They don't enjoy sharing and refuse to regard other people's sentiments
Whether it's toys, snacks or attention, spoilt youngsters want it all for themselves.When others ask for a turn or a nibble, they act as if it is the end of the world.
If your child is constantly playing the victim or attempting to dominate every situation, it may be time for a serious discussion.
How To Unspoil A Child
Unspoiling a child does not imply becoming a military-style parent or taking away everything they like. It's all about finding the appropriate balance between love and limitations, joy and responsibility, freedom and accountability.
Here are a few purposeful parenting ideas to help set spoilt children on the right track:
- Say "no"
Sometimes you have to say "no". It's not going to kill them. In truth, it teaches about boundaries and the fact that life does not always say yes.
Allow them to earn it
Allow them to earn something. Allow them to earn a snack, toyor privilege. It cultivates a work ethic and appreciation.
2. Encourage empathy
Teach them the concept of empathy. Ask them "How do you think that made your sister feel?" with "What would you do if that happened to you?"
3. Acknowledge efforts
Praise effort rather than results. Not just the A grade, but also the studying, endeavour and practice should be celebrated.
Children who acquire respect, gratitude and self-control from an early age are more likely to succeed in a world that does not always give them what they want.