Communication a boost to a romantic relationship.
It is often said, communication is the key to any relationship. It sounds cliché but it’s true. I think it’s really easy to tell people that communication is important in a healthy relationship but it’s not as easy to explain how to communicate. And if we’re never taught how to use this key, then we’ll never be able to open the door to healthy communication. Your favorite Magazine bring to you in the Reality program Couple's corner the different ways you can use in communicating in a relationship, for a healthier, romantic and fantastic relationship all the way.
Romance has swept humans off their feet for hundreds of years, as is evidenced by countless odes written by love-struck poets, romance novels, and reality television shows like The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. Whether pining for love in the pages of a diary or trying to find a soul mate from a cast of suitors, love and romance can seem to take us over at times. As we have learned, communication is the primary means by which we communicate emotion, and it is how we form, maintain, and end our relationships. The most beautiful thing is not just to know well to talk, but be good at listening. This are premodial facts to take in to consideration.
Boosting up our relationship is one of the sexier decision we dream of, we crave for, this can't get better and sweeter without visiting these strong points in communicating for a long lasting and promising relationship.
Communication is a skill, which means there’s always room for improvement. Work together with your partner to figure out how you can maintain healthy communication and stay on the same page. Be as honest, direct, kind, and thoughtful as you can. Whether it’s with a Bae Sesh, or simply making a bigger effort to open up to each other.
Being direct about what you need can alleviate some of the miscommunication or stress in a given situation, too. By letting them know ahead of time, we can maybe prevent those unnecessary disagreements brought on by a miscommunication. Asking open-ended questions gives them an opportunity to share more if they choose to. Keep in mind that not everyone opens up very easily. Be patient with your partner if they are not sharing all the time. We set boundaries around our emotions and everyone’s boundaries are different. So, be mindful and respectful of their emotional boundaries, and they should be equally mindful and respectful of yours.
Ultimately, the more you get to know your S.O. on a deeper level, the more open and honest you may be with each other. And honesty breeds trust, which are two very important pillars of a healthy relationship. Communication is another super important pillar!
Sometimes you can tell just by looking at someone what they may be feeling. It’s not always easy to do this and let’s face it: as much as we want to be mind readers, we aren’t and shouldn’t have to be. So, if you’re not sure what your partner is feeling, ask them.
If your partner is the one who is guilty of being passive aggressive, try letting them know that it’s not really helpful for either of you when they’re not honest about how they feel. Of course, it’s awesome when we know each other so well that we can practically read each other’s’ thoughts and know exactly what to say in the right moments, but we’re human and we may make mistakes sometimes or miss cues that seem obvious to our partner or vice versa. It’s important that you both make an effort to better understand each other and be patient with each other, too.
Use “I” statements when problems arise
One problem couples run into when they are arguing is attacking each other.
By using “I” statements, you take the pressure off your partner.
Instead of saying YOU did this and it made me angry”, try communicating “I feel that when THIS occurred, my feelings were hurt.”
See the difference? You made the problem your own, instead of attacking your partner.
This simple, yet effective technique prevents either of you from going into attack-mode or becoming needlessly defensive with one another.
One of the great communication skills in relationships is when you and your partner can talk about the little things as well as the big things. You can strengthen your marriage by talking about your day, your thoughts, or share funny stories from your week. When you are married, every topic should be open for discussion. There shouldn’t be anything that is too awkward or uncomfortable to share. By talking about the little things you will make it easier to talk about more important topics in the future.
Make physical contact. No matter what tone your conversation is taking, physical contact is important. Low-intensity stimulation of the skin, such as touching a partner or stroking their arm, promotes the release of oxytocin. The love hormone promotes bonding and empathy in romantic partners, and it can also act as an anti-stress agent and promotes cooperative behavior.
We can see the important influence that communication has on the way we perceive relationships by examining the ways in which relational values have changed over recent decades. Over the course of the twentieth century, for example, the preference for chastity as a valued part of relationship selection decreased significantly. While people used to indicate that it was very important that the person they partner with not have had any previous sexual partners, today people list several characteristics they view as more important in mate selection (Segrin & Flora, 2005). In addition, characteristics like income and cooking/housekeeping skills were once more highly rated as qualities in a potential mate. Today, mutual attraction and love are the top mate-selection values.
We can not over emphasis on the importance of communication in a relationship. Couple's corner marks a footprint in your minds that, communication is the key to a happy, healthy relationship. You can improve your communication in marriage by being open and honest about your physical and emotional needs, remaining an open book regarding money matters, and giving your partner your full attention.
Pelagie YANKEY, Editor at FabAfriq Magazine